Friday, May 30, 2008

The Power of Negative and Positive Thoughts….Where Does Your Power Lie?*


I was recently skimming over the CNN news highlights and some of them read, “Bad hurricanes forecast, but few ready”, “Woman in iron lung dies after power failure”,
and “Do You Hate Your Commute Too?”

Now, as you read each of those statements, how do you feel? If you had to label each as a positive or negative news story, which would each be? As I read them, I realized that each of them was negative in nature. My initial responses to each of the statements were, “Yikes”, “Very sad”, and “Heck yah I hate it”. Many of you may be able to relate to those responses, and if you do, I want to point something out to you. Something that had occurred to me as I realized my own reaction to them. My thoughts about those stories left me feeling worried, sad, and frustrated. I then noticed how my thoughts continued to think of other negative thoughts about my own life and experiences. For example, I thought about a storm I had seen years ago that left me feeling as if I were in a re-make of The Wizard of Oz, the tornado scene. Then I thought about the day I had a very bad commute into work, as if I had been transported onto the streets of downtown New York. This went on for several minutes, until I realized how I was giving more power to my negative thoughts and disregarding any positive thoughts.

Negative thoughts can be useful and have a purpose in the sense that they indicate how you are feeling at any given moment. Once someone realizes that, “hey, I have been feeling frustrated or stressed”, then they can use that as a signal to
acknowledge what they are feeling and then ideally let it go…..*

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Finally, a very effective question to ask yourself the next time you experience a negative thought is, “Is it the negative thought that is really upsetting me, or is it the power I am giving the negative thought that is upsetting me?” Once you figure out the answer, you will begin to free yourself from your negative thoughts, and then you can choose to focus on more positive thoughts.

Peace and Joy to all!
* Please note, these are highlights from an entire article in Higher-Self Living Paychecks. For more information, please visit our website at www.higherselflifecoaching.com.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hello: Excellent blog post. I agree, these things are happening, but it's the power we give them that brings us down. Mona & Giovanni of Question the Mind dealt with these kind of thoughts one day with Byron Katie's Inquiry worksheets.

Of course, we can also stop watching/listening to the news or confine it to times apart from bedtime!

Cheers
Ellen Besso
www.ellenbesso.com/midlifemaze

Anonymous said...

Hi again Shannon: I just realized that you are a Martha Beck trained coach, as am I (May 2005). I have your blog on my Google Reader.

Cheers
Ellen Besso
Navigate Your MidLife Maze
www.ellenbesso.com/midlifemaze